Last Thursday, I went out with a guy friend who I already knew for 6 years. (Note that he has a girlfriend and she knows me as well.) While we were together, I noticed and said, "Uy, lalake ka pa rin pala. Buti naman..." I laughed, made a sigh of relief and followed it with a smile.
I then realized that one by one, each of my male friends are actually turning into gays, or, as they claim, bisexuals. They don't actually cross-dress, they look like men, act more like men, but they like their own -- men. But whether its called gay or bisexual, they are all the same -- they are still in-between.
It was hard for me to identify, and I get shocked on each revelations.
Please also note that they are long-term friends, and I am really counting the years -- 4 years, 5 years. Yet I painfully needed to drop those years of friendship with them just because they choose to stay away from me so they could get other men's attention and be bisexual. Though I have accepted their sexuality, I had to let go because doing so would make them happy.
It is also upsetting to know that there are those who keep their sexuality a secret. (I uncovered the truth from other people.) All these time, all these years, they are making-up stories and use innocent girls as their cover-up girlfriends. I pity those girls for not knowing, and I pity those bisexuals because they aren't free. They caged themselves and live in illusion. In gay linggo, they are called PAMINTA (as in "Pa-men" or frontal men and gay/bisexual inside).
I salute those who come-out in the open and declare themselves as gay or bisexuals. They are able to be themselves without worrying for another lie nor do they use or hurt other people. They are free and they have my respect for being true to themselves.
In a recent survey in the Philippines, the male population is greater than the women's. (Oh well, the MRT/LRT daily trips prove it.) However, the surveys doesn't count those in between -- the gays, lesbians, bisexuals. I felt that when Rustom Padilla came-out with the truth about his sexuality, all other "men" followed. They are not born nor made, but they increase like mushrooms.
But what the heck! This is a free country. I don't really mind whatever sexuality one has, as long as that person is not living in deception and is being true to himself.
To all those who are in-between, show me, show us, and show the whole world that you are all deserving of the respect that you are asking for. After all, we are human.
